I love my mum lots but this year, I've decided to give tribute to my mother in law who has welcome me into her home with open arms way before Wx & I got married.
My MIL is a very simple woman who ask not much from life or the people around her. She derives her joy from the little things in life like making sure her family's well fed and taken care of and her weekly mahjong sessions. She doesn't expects anything from us, but has so much to give.
My relationship with her is truly blessed. There's no love hate drama and we have gotten along very well since day 1. I honestly think it's because of her patience and easy going nature which makes it so. I know I am not the most easy person to get along with, what with my obsessive compulsive disorder (hahaha). Of course we have our differences and at times "fight" for what we each think is right for J, but she basically really respects my wishes as a mother to J. For that, I am really grateful. After all, she is the one who has brought up 3 boys while I am all new to this mothering business next to her.
Being a working mother, it is really important for me to know that my baby's safe with someone who love and care for him. It gives me a peace of mind and allows me to concentrate well on my job when I am away from J, esp. when I need to travel. I count myself darn lucky to have my in laws help and not have to resort to other help such as infant care, maid etc. I am one who never believe that grandparents should naturally be the caregiver when the little ones come along (that is if the mother is not a SAHM), instead, it is a blessing when the elders want to take on the job. Every parents already paid their dues when their own little ones arrived in their lives. Imagine having to take care of us brats for close to 2 decades and when they finally can retire and enjoy their golden years, they are expected to take on another round of baby chasing? Mind you, some kids never grow up. Heard of the Italian boys who will always be mummy's' boys. Now imagine, having to take care of ur kids forever, and then their kids forever. It may be fulfilling but I am sure there are some parents who want something else from their lives and I see nothing wrong with that. Of cos it's fun for grandparents to be with their grandchildren but it sure sounds tiring and I am sure there are some who dream of travelling in their retirement, enjoying a cuppa with their friends as and when they like, etc..I'm sure you get the picture . And because of my beliefs, I am really grateful and appreciative of my MIL. She's so patient with J, so patient that she puts me to shame, really. And nobody watches over J as well as her, she's with him every single step.
She's not one to openly express her affection, except with J whom she grabs and shower with kisses so I have never told her how I feel. Frankly speaking, I have no idea how. It's not like I can goof around my mum, gives her a hug now and then and make her blush when i plant a kiss on her cheeks. This mummy is more conservative, and not easy to shower with gifts since she lacks nothing and wants nothing. So this year, for mother's day, I want the world to know how great a mother she is. Happy Mother's Day Mummy!
